What Can Guys Do with an Unplanned Pregnancy?

Did your partner recently reveal that she’s pregnant? If so, you’re likely filled with overwhelming thoughts and questions. And you might wonder about your role in the pregnancy or how you can support your partner.

Whatever you’re thinking or feeling right now, it’s understandable. Finding out you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy can prove to be an uncertain time, but you’re not alone in this. At Relate Care Clinic, we’re here for you and your partner.

Read on to learn more about your role in an unexpected pregnancy. Or contact us today to schedule a free, confidential appointment to talk with one of our caring team members and learn more about free resources that are here to help.

What Should I Do Next?

The decision about how to move forward in the pregnancy is ultimately your partner’s choice to make, but you have an important role to play.

Supporting your partner is the most essential thing you can do right now. The following ideas can help you think through the best way to show your support:

  • Make sure she has everything she needs to make an educated decision. You can do this by helping her research her pregnancy options, which include parenting, adoption, and abortion.
  • Listen without judgment as she shares her concerns and feelings with you.
  • Let her know that you’ll be there for her no matter what she decides.
  • Help her get what she needs, whether that’s access to doctor’s appointments, special foods, vitamins, etc.

What If I Don’t Agree with My Partner’s Pregnancy Decision?

It’s critical to approach your partner gently with your thoughts and feelings if she’s considering a pregnancy decision you disagree with—her mental health depends on it.

Studies have shown that when a woman feels even subtly pressured into a pregnancy decision—especially abortion—she is more likely to experience adverse mental health outcomes, like depression, anxiety, and regret.

However, it’s also important to know that your thoughts and desires are valid as well. If you disagree with your partner’s pregnancy decision, consider the following:

  • Gently share your thoughts and feelings with your partner in a way that isn’t coercive or forceful.
  • Explain why you’re feeling that way.
  • Express your concerns with her pregnancy decision, but be careful not to try to convince her that your choice is right and hers isn’t.

You’re Not Alone

Many different emotions and thoughts are likely going through your mind right now, but you’re not alone. At Relate Care Clinic, we’re here for you and your partner.

Contact us today to learn more about your pregnancy options and the free services we provide that are here to help. All appointments and resources are free and confidential.

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